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Online community offers some guidance for coping with a loved one’s diagnosis

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With many provinces in the country celebrating a holiday Monday this past weekend, in addition to Valentine’s Day, there were many opportunities to spend time with loved ones. For families with a loved one who has been diagnosed with cancer, time spent together is all the more precious and poignant.
Coping with a loved one’s diagnosis can be very difficult, with a wide variety of emotions and new responsibilities to be managed. Earlier this month, we asked our community members and Facebook fans how they coped when someone they loved was diagnosed with cancer.

Community member Davideo shared his experience after his wife was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer.

“How did we deal with it? Well it becomes one more thing that life throws at us. You ‘look straight ahead’ and live one day at a time,” Davideo wrote. He added that he takes most of his guidance from his wife as to how to deal with her diagnosis.

“We both pray...not necessarily for the great miracle...but for whatever help we can receive,” Davideo wrote. “We take our pills and share the work. We try to be grateful — blessings do not cease when things get scary. I don’t cope with Lynn’s problem — I live with Lynn herself, and together with that ageless God, we carry on.”

Other community members and Facebook friends who are cancer patients themselves offered some additional guidance for those who are coping with a loved one’s cancer diagnosis.

Responding to Davideo’s post, community member Elizabeth35 wrote: “Your words are very accurate about living one day at a time. Although it is nice to have moments where you forget, it never goes away and knowing that those around you can acknowledge it is heartwarming and endearing.”

Facebook fan Nicole wrote that her family supported her by helping her through each day, with meals, visits and offers of help. Her biggest supporter was her spouse, who also drove her to each of her appointments, she said. And finally, the professionalism and optimism of her treatment team also instilled confidence in her. “I’m forever grateful,” Nicole wrote.

Brian wrote on Facebook that, while having one’s spouse and children at one’s side and friends offering words of encouragement provide some comfort, his team of cancer specialists offers the best words, hope and comfort to him.

Also on Facebook, Ryan wrote that each person will cope differently with a cancer diagnosis. After the initial shock of his diagnosis wore off and he told his loved ones, he just wanted to be alone for a while.
“It sounds weird I know but it was almost to prepare myself for what was to come and know that I could beat it. But I will say again every person is different in how they cope. Your family and friends are your greatest strength,” Ryan wrote.

To join the discussion about coping with a loved one’s diagnosis, please click here.
You can read more about Davideo’s experience as both a caregiver and patient, by clicking here



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