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Welcome to July and another member to get to know. Please check out  Carjac87's account of her unterine cancer experience and the people who support her.

Hello, All!

I'm Jacquie from Winnipeg. I'll be 66 in September & am retired, my last job working as a Health Care Aide at the Children's Hospital OR. I met my husband Carl (74 this Saturday!) 42 years ago at work where we became friends. We've been together 37 years now & married 34 come October. We have one son who will be 32 in November & who lives with his partner & 2 dogs in our old house.


Me & my Carl

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Our son, Shea & his partner, TJ

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I love to read...it's an absolute passion. Horror/suspense is my favourite! Since we've moved from our house to an apartment, it's been quite the adjustment after 31 years & we are still decluttering! I have a couple of houseplants I talk to & I play many games online, especially chess, backgammon & various word games. Love to watch British shows & movies...their humour is the best!

Our view from our 14th floor balcony in our new home!

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One of many gorgeous sunsets!

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I was in perimenopause for about 10 years, before my periods finally ended at age 50. Hot flashes aside,that was a very happy time! 

Before being diagnosed with cancer, I had intermittent spotting for several years. I actually never thought much of it, till it became more frequent. Thankfully my GP sent me to a great gynaecologist who proceeded to give me several D & C's over the span of about 8 months. Every biopsy came back clear but for the last one. I got a phone call early one morning from him & I just knew it wasn't good.

I was very matter of fact when I was told. I felt nothing really. I was calm, I didn't panic...it was like the call never happened. I went about my day & when I picked up Carl from work, I told him. He was very matter of fact as well (neither of us are panicky people) & then came what I really dreaded....telling our son. The look on his face said what he couldn't voice. Then I had to phone my Dad & he also is very matter of fact. 

It was August 2017 when I was diagnosed, & I had a complete hysterectomy at the end of September. It was caught very early, thankfully. 8 weeks later I had 3 rounds of radiation & that was that. 

I'm now having 6 month follow-ups & have 1 year left I believe & so far, all has been well.

My cousin was a font of information & a real rock...another matter of fact person & a great cheerleader of mine. She had a mastectomy at 35 & had several bouts of various cancers over the years, so definitely was a person to lean on & learn from.

My Carl was always there, worrying but not fussing, & doing anything that was needed. Our son was quiet but would talk about his thoughts & feelings if I started the conversation. My Dad was as a Dad should be...there if I needed him. I never bothered telling anyone else except for these family members. i'm not close to any of my family anymore really, ever since Mom died, so didn't see the need.


Me & Dad (88 this November)

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Our McClane, Norwegian Elkhound (now gone)

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Because things went so well for me....the speed at which I was diagnosed, the surgery & radiation, I honestly never felt scared or worried or much of anything, really. Sometimes I feel guilty because I know so many others have an awful time with it & too many never make it.

Finding CancerConnection was a life-saver, for me. I had never heard of it but it came up when I was Googling cancer groups & when I saw that it was strictly all Canadian, I was thrilled! Speaking with others who have had & still have cancer, & also the caregivers, really helped to set my mind at ease many, many times & answer so many questions that I didn't even know I had...I truly would have been lost without everyone here!

These days, I'm not here as often as I once was. My Carl was diagnosed last July with Alzheimer's, so some days it's rather 'interesting'. For the most part, he's doing well...his short term memory is almost non-existent which can lead to some pretty funny conversations. We both have a warped sense of humour which definitely keeps us as sane as possible.

I still have my wobbles...something doesn't feel quite right, or there is a change to a part of my body & I often think "Uh oh, what if it's back?" I don't know if I'll ever be rid of such thoughts but for now, I'm living as well as I can.

Kudos to you if you have stayed awake through this all lol


Thank you so much for sharing your story with us Jacquie.  Wishing you many many more of those sunset views!




Comments

Carjac87

I really enjoyed getting to know you more. Thank you for sharing.

We really appreciate the support you offer others in our community and are so glad you found us!

Lacey
  • Posted Wed 07 Jul 2021 05:19 PM EDT
Hello Carjac87‍ - So nice to be able to meet and know you more. I felt the same way when I found cancer connection. I’m so happy that your cancer was caught early and you are doing well. Your Carl is a lucky man and it’s so wonderful to meet him too and how special that you have been married so long to each other.

Thank you for all of your support and contributions here. You make it such a special and kind community for the rest of us!

Hugs
Trillium
  • Posted Wed 07 Jul 2021 03:29 PM EDT
Hi Carjac87
It was so enervating to read about you and Carl and how mellow you both seem to be. It's a relief to accept life's good and bad milestones as there is very little within one's control anyway. You are so fortunate to have come thru your cancer ordeal like a champ----and now you are dealing with Carl's Alzheimer's straightforwardly as well. Admiration to both of you!!
And....the fotos were grand....I love Little McClane and know s/he is having a grand time in Heaven.
Thanx for sharing with all of us.
law1
  • Posted Tue 06 Jul 2021 01:59 PM EDT
Carjac87

THANK YOU for sharing your story and images of your beautiful life!

Cancer Connection has indeed been a lifeline to me as well, and a great conduit to fantastic folks like you!

all the best to your sweet little family as you all move thru your Carl's #Alzheimers story - you are lucky to have each other......IMHO it's not the quantity of folks we have near us, but the quality that counts!

cheers/hugs

#meetthecancerneighbors
  • Posted Sat 03 Jul 2021 09:19 AM EDT
Carjac87‍ I have really enjoyed your posts over the years, but what a treat to get to know you better! I also love the fact that this is a Canadian based site; makes the information and resources very tangible and relevant! Though I think we get some international visitors too.
I ve how you say "my Carl", not just "Carl". That says so much about your wonderful relationship.
Thanks for being here when you are. Quality over quantity wins every time!
  • Posted Fri 02 Jul 2021 07:17 PM EDT

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