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Let's Discuss...2020
Happy New Year!

A New Year's resolution is a promise a person makes for the new year. Regardless of what resolution you commit to, the goal is to improve life in the coming year. Do you plan on living a healthier lifestyle, practicing better self care,or spending more time with family?

Did you make any promises to yourself for 2020?
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Thanks Lacey!! My goals for 2020 can help everyone to keep busy and for me keeping busy amd getting organized helps me feel in control and focussed. I have started by organizing my basement on days when I feel I have some energy. I also have a journal to write down my thoughts amd plans. So my goal for 2020 is getting organized in my home and in the thoughts!! What is everyone else doing?
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My resolution for 2020 is to live my life to the fullest.  I feel extremely fortunate that my diagnosis wasn't worse and I can handle what I was dealt with.  I will continue to keep my family in the forefront and enjoy our times together.  It is what keeps me happy.  I will also garden as soon as the ground allows me to, to reap the benefits of flowers that brighten everyones lives and definitely lift my mood. 
Wishing everyone the best 2020.  Let's leave 2019 behind us and start fresh..........
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I plan to do what makes me Happy! I'm eager to get out into the garden this Spring and then spend some time at the beach and cottage this summer. I also feel very fortunate that I got through my treatments so well and that I have my family and wonderful friends to enjoy!. Life is Good!
Wendy Tea
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Happy New Year!

My plan is to live.

Eat healthy,  exercise,  socialize,  use my brain,  and give back.

And maybe get more raspberry streaks in my hair. 
I am taking a pain management class that is a prerequisite for other goodies like art therapy and I believe does things like mindfulness and meditation. I started two art classes; one is online and the other is in home tutoring/ help. I started an on line writing class from a known class. I started kinesiology and will finish last three Feldenkrais sessions.im taking a class by Margaret Paul later on, but the first one was free and online.

I started a process with GP to begin muscular skeletal investigations of my handicapping mastectomy...they took too much tissue and damaged shoulders.

There is more socializing in the cards.
Thank you Lacey, you are appreciated! 
I am truly grateful for the support team I have for my injury I sustained Aug 2018.  The trauma changed the cancer state and I am grateful to be moving forward in the New Year to complete healing in all areas!  I am only beginning to get screen time in, so i am not much up to date on this community I am so grateful for, and I am here to support anyone who needs it and am grateful!  I Intend to share someday a succession on health so there are tools available for individuals, caregivers, and professionals to access!  will share more as it comes!  

Blessings to everyone.... enjoy the moments and ‘Just be’ ❣️ 

Here we go in love for 2020 💗😁🙏🌀🦋

To see clearly in 2020.

I can hear the groans and I know it was a bad pun. It isn't even original - I stole it from Seth Godin.

But it honestly captured my desire. Twenty months ago I wasn't sure I would get to write this date. Now that I'm here, I'm looking around and I realize that life has so much to offer. So often I don't pay attention whether it is to hurting people around me, the fantastic place I get to live, and all the interesting things I get to do.

Some of you know of my struggle to learn watercolor. I was painting waves this morning. Better said, trying to paint them. And while I can see them with a sailor's eye, usually gauging their strength and direction, seeing them with a painter's eye is a completely new experience. And it is one that had I not been diagnosed with cancer I would never have had.

So my goal is simple - to learn to see.

So this year I have decided that I won't stress over work like I did before I got cancer. My work doesn't really care about me, so I go in and put in my 8 hours of solid work and do the best I can. My work always likes to pile more and more on a person and expect you to get it all done. I think that added to making me sick in the first place. I spend time with all my family. I hug my mom, my kids and my husband more. I look around more when I am outside at birds, the sky, snow, pretty much anything just to appreciate it more. I have also decided to keep exercising a little each day just to keep the lymphedema in check and I like that I lost a little weight and am feeling much stronger. I guess this new year brings me being more thankful that I am still here.

Take care,
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Happy new year!

with my husband's diagnosis just before Christmas and the associated troubles, i've not actually thought beyond keeping my head above water.
I suppose if you had asked in November, i would have mentioned the typical ones... Declutter and get back into exercising (beyond walking the dog 2h a day). at least the healthy eating part i have (or had) down pretty well.

One thing that has come from this, is i will be more involved. not just coast along. Make things happen instead of wait for them to come my way.

WestCoastSailor‍ funny how you just made me understand all the hindsight jokes i've been coming across.. 2020 duh, i am so rolling my eyes at myself right now. good luck with your painting. that's one of a long list of creative hobbies i want to (get back) into, naturally, "when i have the time again"...
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I don’t set New Year’s resolutions but I do like to take a look forward and plan things for the year. I do this because so often, to do the things we plan to do, some actions need to happen to get us there!

On the list for 2020 are:
To become a stronger runner and to participate in some races (that motivates me to workout every day, running or in the gym)
To get out camping with my partner, friends and dog - we camp all year round
To do a backpacking trip in Alberta in August with my partner - we are deciding our route now ready for when campsite booking opens
To renovate our bathroom
To go visit family in UK in April
To rejuvenate my native prairie flowerbeds (a bit overgrown after 2 summers of chaos through diagnosis and treatment)
To give back to Cancer Connection by supporting others
To read more books 
To try new things with friends

All of this, with a general principle of being more balanced. I can be a little all-in or nothing, and overextend myself. Before cancer treatment this was doable here and there, but as I discovered before Christmas when I was doing too much, I’m not capable of that just now and need to slow down a little. So, I’m planning to read more - it’s something I enjoy, struggle to find time for usually, but it’s restful, and when I’m not being a manic busy person sitting down with a book will help me to be a little more balanced.
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Hmmmmm. My year looms fat and full of challenges. Today I'm just trying to love my new temporary breast as I wait for the final
fill and my new implant.  I have an expander in my chest which pushes the skin out slowly to take the shape of a breast and once 
its big enough I'll be on the list for surgery.  My last surgery I hope. I haven't posted in a long time because I'm cancer free but perhaps 
not free of cancer. I have survivors guilt. Happy to be healthy but suffering through in silence because I'm not sick.  Thats screwed up I 
know it. Anyway having a hard time loving this "breast" of mine that's not me. It has no feeling ( like at the dentists) and looks like a 16 year 
olds and is kinda scary.....so me but not me. Those of you who are on a heartbreaking journey please forgive me. But this is what my 
journey looks like back from darkness and I thought it would be easy. On the flip side I love my plastic surgeon. She is funny and tiny and 
full of mischief.  Just what I love in life.  So off I go for a fill ( big syringe really surreal can't feel a thing) Here's to falsies!
Cynthia Mac
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I’m not one for making resolutions either, Essjay‍ , but I do try to find a quiet hour or two every New Year’s Eve and write down a list of goals for my crafts. It might be finishing something I started a few years earlier, or something new I want to make in the coming year. I always leave a column for “also dids” because I know I’m going to get side-tracked and make a bunch of things I didn’t dream of on Dec. 31.

This year, I would like to get out in nature more, lose a little weight (10 pounds would be a start!), which of course requires eating a little better and exercising a little more. 
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There are a lot of resolutions I could make but I think the most important one for me right now is the following.
This may sound a bit corny but based on my situation and heath issues my resolution is to stay connected to this Community and reach 73 years old and bring in 2021 with a new resolution to bring in 2022.
My survival is living one day at a time. I joined this Community December 2018 and those days turned into more than a year.
So although I live one day at a time I may even live to a Century and get a letter from the Prime Minister.
We are what we think we are. 
Secondary resolution is to give back to others the love that I have recieved.
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Happy New Year 

im trying to eat better, and cut out the sweets for a while ( it’s not easy lol) trying to spend more time with my family, lastly try to keep positive attitude on life. One day at a time 
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My goal for 2020 is to get my house in order.  As I face the limitations of life ending, I want to be sure that I leave nothing unsaid or undone for my family and friends.
I would much prefer to be putting my actual house in order, but priorities change.
I try to write meaningful letters for my loved ones, but it is so difficult to put into words all that I want to share.  And the tears are not helping.
But I keep at it, in the hope that I will get it done.

I am still hopeful that I will see 2020 through and celebrate my daughter's graduation in 2021.  I have not given up, but I am reminded daily now that there are limitations...
So, I am living fully in addition to these letters to create memories that will remain important for my family.  Little expeditions and hopefully a trip or two are part of the plan as soon as I get the okay to fly.  Outings in and around Ontario and Quebec are also in the making for this summer...

2020 finds me at 60 discovering what I really like and dislike, and I must admit, I wish I had realized many things earlier in life.

I am focused on staying alive, with a good quality of life for as long as I can.  I would like to be the longest palliative care patient that existed :-D and why not?

Happy New year everyone!  
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I never make New Year's resolutions...if anything could make me change, it was my cancer diagnosis...thanks to everyone who has shared their New Year's resolutions...Happy New Year 2020...I'm going on five years post cancer diagnosis, this year...
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Happy 2020 Everyone!

As I mentioned in my Relay For Life group forum (Check out this group in the tab above and join !!!) ... I have put it out to the universe of my intention to be an active participate and team leader in my first Relay for Life event in my home town this year!  

My cancer, my rules!
I am the storm!
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You are a brave person. Getting your feelings out is important and everyone should do that in there own way. Your loved ones however know from your good works how you feel about them.
Your daughter's graduation is a great forward looking goal.
I was given the time to spend with my granddaughter as a result of surviving Lymphoma. Now that she is on her own life journey I can only visualize the fun that we had together.
Visualize the fun times you have had over the years with your daughter. They can help you get to you desired goal.
It is great that you are planning fun times to create more memories.
Yes it is so true as we get older we realize what is truly important to us in life.
We can't change the past, we did the best we could with what we had at the time.
At the end of your post I love your attitude. Focused on living.
Have a great year,
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Hi Lacey_adminCCS‍, 

This year I want to get through my bilateral mastectomy and radiation.  Then I plan to put my Fitbit back to better use by gradually increasing the amount of walking I do.  I also intend to carry on with eating more fruit and veggies.

I am currently trying to declutter my apartment and I will continue with that.  And at some point, I am going to take an amazing trip, place to be determined.

Most important, I am going to keep positive and find something good about every day.  Because life is too short not to enjoy it as much as possible.
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Happy New Year Everyone. 

Someone mentioned in the thread "Let's leave 2019 behind and start afresh". That's pretty much what I intend to do in 2020, wish I could undo having cancer in the same stream 😀. 
My vision board for 2020 is attached. I try to keep it simple but intentional to achieve purpose and fulfillment in 2020. 
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Thank you SpeedyStill‍ ,
It will indeed be a great year, no matter what!  I am lucky to have a strong support system, with people who offer unconditional love.
And it helps that they are willing to do rebel things to keep me/us entertain.

The graduation is certainly a goal, my daughter suffered from mental health issues for many years and I never thought that she would find her feet, and here she is now, making good decisions and moving forward with her life.  I am so proud of her and will do all that I can to make sure that I'm sitting right there in June 2021.

We talked about some of the experiences that we may not have together, such as her wedding, babies, etc.  but we are being creative and thinking up ways to make sure that she knows that I support her even if I may not be there.  Perhaps I'll share as we develop these ideas, just far fetched right now... LOL  

Have a wonderful 2020 also!  💗
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I don't make any promises or resolutions as such, because sometimes circumstances change. We have been thinking of moving from Montreal to Oshawa, ON, for about 4 years. The year 2020 pans out very differently if we actually move. 
Anyway, either way, I hope to continue helping my husband with his volunteer work, with Canadian military veterans.  I hope to help people here in cancerconnection. One of the most important things seems to be saying hello to new people, even if I don't know anything about that particular cancer.   I think it really helps individuals to know that there are people here to connect with.  I want to keep going to the gym.  (If we moved I would have a long list of 'requirements' - near a gym, near a library, near a supermarket, etc! )  If we moved, many things would be on hold for some months, I imagine. 

A question for myself for 2020: How often do I want to write in my blog, and how often do I want to send letters to the editor?  One of the things I'm writing about is Quebec's Bill 21, the secular bill.  If a letter of mine gets published for example, I'll post that in a few Facebook pages, and the majority do not like what I wrote. A few people told me that I'm not a humanist, I'm a militant atheist. So if they mean like writer Christopher Hitchens, great, I wish I could write like that!  But I got so many negative comments, and of course my blood pressure is going up. (I used to be on meds for high-ish blood pressure).  Maybe I'll keep going with my writing, but not post to 3 Facebook sites at the same time. 
Wendy Tea
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Elsie13‍  I wish you well if you decide to move. Military veterans can use all the help they can get. They go through so much and receive little recognition and support.
People who are mean and rude anonymously on social media are intrinsically unhappy souls. Kindness makes the world go round and it's free.
Best wishes 
Wendy Tea 
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Really love your vision board Livelife‍ 
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This is a free country and we are all free to present our point of view. This is called debating an issue so a resolution can result in the best decision.
I don't know what your view is on this subject so I am not agreeing with you.
I think that you are a wonderful person, so please do not be offended by my comment.
I don't feel that this platform is designed to reslove political issues.
It would be best if Lacey made a comment on this.
SpeedyStill Always here to support people touched by Cancer.
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Elsie13‍ I've heard that a lot recently on Facebook. But then the expectations on manners have decreased in society.

A bit like newton's law. If you have strong opinions, you will encounter equally strong opposing views. That's not always a bad thing. Adversity makes you grow. Use their arguments to examine and strengthen your own.
Or just ignore them ;)

I admit, when I get bored I stir the pot a bit sometimes. Playing both sides of arguments, pointing out the flaws in both their logics... people like to argue so much over trivial things these days, and they're so stubborn about not seeing the other side.... 
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That's so true, Laika57‍ , "If you have strong opinions, you will encounter equally strong opposing views."  I think I should cut back on the time I'm spending on Facebook!
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Happy New Year 2020 Everyone, that also includes Lacey, and Lianne.

I have set goals for 2020, and don't always finish it right, as I am still in treatment & awaiting my 2nd phase with breast reconstruction to be set.

I try to keep busy and list things to do and get done with no pressure. Eat healthy meals/ beverages. Stay in the friendly circle of people & on here too. And another thing, I won't do what I did last year, not being prepared before surgery and come home to not having the stuff I needed, so I plan ahead better this time around (Lessons learned from last year).

I DO love reading to stories of other people(s) strengths on how they do it, day, week, weekend and month to stay strong no matter what. I am not sure if anyone had heard from someone who once said that Cancer was his or her teacher, meant that each of us learns something, brave the journey, and be able to give back to the community. I am trying that route, hopefully pick up tips from everyone on here. 

Keep it simple each day, everyone!

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My 18 for 2018 and 19 for 2019 really helped me to focus on how to move forward through cancer treatment,  into survivorship and enjoy life.  In 2020 my intentions for the year are to…
*enjoy and appreciate the health I have
*continue to be the advocate of my own health and follow my survivorship plan
*help my husband navigate through his medical problems, and  help my daughter with her son’s medical issues
*help my friends/family going through their cancer journey with information and support
*continue to try/create  new recipes,  especially soups and salads
*use my Le Pot more often
*with the aid of my FitBit I will continue to strive to walk 10,000 steps daily, but will not stress out on days that that number is not reached
*curl 2 -3 times a week during the cold months and golf at least once a week during the warm months
* go to yoga class at least once a week, and do some at home between classes
* visit out of town family more often
*go on a cruise in the Mediterranean to visit Greece, Montenegro, Croatia, Italy, Monaco, France and Spain
*work on puzzles, cross stitch and painting as the mood hits
*work on the next phase of the family history research I started in 2019 by adding stories from family members still alive of grandparents and great grandparents before those stories are lost
*read at least twice this year at the Off the Shelf adult program at the library
Giving back:
*gather family teams, raise money and walk in the Relay for Life and ALS walks in the town nearby again this year
*volunteer to bring STEM to students through Popsicle stick bridge building in local area


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Essjay‍ Thank you. 
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