Posted by CatherineS on Jan 16, 2021 2:25 pm
From what you wrote, I sense you have been very solitary, even in caring for your dad. That would have been so stressful. My mom is 86, with several health issues, and so often needs to be checked on and sometimes cared for. Luckily, my whole family is in one big house, so we all have each other for support. During my cancer treatment my daughter and mom were my main caregivers. My brother drove me to most of my appointments because his schedule is flexible, and my husband took care of everything else. I have been incredibly fortunate, but all of this taught me, with profound insight, that we are not meant to soldier through alone. So I hope you have a support system to guide you through your grief. Just someone to talk to - it need not even be about your struggles. Sometimes just laughing at something together is enough to get you through a dark day.
I'm glad you're here. There are many people on this site caring for loved ones, many in a palliative situation. Maybe you can connect with a few.
Good luck with your fresh start. I hope you have wonderful neighbours and make some great friends.
Posted by Tjphee on Jan 16, 2021 8:43 pm
Posted by Cynthia Mac on Jan 17, 2021 8:54 am
Thank you for providing the opportunity for me to add that!
Posted by Nicky01 on Jan 18, 2021 8:45 am
I never make New Years resolutions because most people who make them usually do not keep them. I am optimistic and looking forward to 2021 even if last year was closed on a sour note because I got the results of my December scan a few days ago and I am still NED so fantastic way to start a new year. Got an appointment February 16 to find out which form of the 4 different kind of lupus I have and I will deal with that one when I get there. I am blessed with having a fantastic partner and 2 wonderful kids + 2 grandkids. I always have a new projet in my head as soon has I finish one I start another one that’s my way of dealing with confinement and since March I only go out for medical appointments. I exercise a lot I take a break every 2 to 3 hours and go for a walk and also do some standing exercises inside the house. This year I am hoping I will be able to start seeing family and friends again. I am still doing that take it one day at a time thing because I figure that is all any of us have....this day since tomorrow is not here yet or next week...etc so why should I worry about it I would rather enjoy this moment... this day and think about tomorrow when I get there!! When I think back to a year ago I find myself very lucky because during my whole life I can honestly say that.....that one year is the year where I will have learned the most about myself and what I want everyday for the rest of my life....however long that life will be!! What some people say is true...if you take the time to stop and look there is always a little light shining somewhere in your life!!
Resilience...today is a brand new day and I will make the most of it!!
Posted by scaredysquirrel on Jan 18, 2021 10:05 pm
Posted by Dhenne on Jan 20, 2021 6:13 pm
Posted by Lacey_Moderator on Jan 21, 2021 11:54 am
A few years ago a member shared that they don't make resolutions they make a list of things they want to do or accomplish for the year ahead. For example 21 things for 2021. Then you have the year to check them off. For example:
1. Walk twice a week
2. Learn to paint
3. Try one new recipe a week
4. Paint the kitchen
5. Call my friends more
For all who want to make a list for 2021 I have started a thread here: 21 things for 2021 - CancerConnection.ca. Click the link and share your list with us! Let's encourage each other to accomplish the things that are important to us!
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