I have been amazed lately at how true all this has been in my own life.
“Resilience is accepting your new reality, even if it's less good than the one you had before. You can fight it, you can do nothing but scream about what you've lost, or you can accept that and try to put together something that's good.”
― Elizabeth Edwards
It is so true that we learn a lot about life with every challenge we face. I know that I have learned a lot and am still learning about the dynamics of life itself.
We grow as human beings and are able to see and understand some of the difficuties that other people are faced with in their life.
I know that when I comment in the this Community it is not from book knowledge but personal experience.
We become or at least I have become more empathtic.
Human resilience is seen when people survive the cruelest of situations.
Resilience is harder the older you get but it can happen with the right support and the inner will to survive.
Your pictures are always amazing and remind us of the beauty that surrounds us.
Keep your pictures and your posts coming they are an inspiration for me and I am sure for other people.
Thank you for sharing
One of the dictionary definitions for "excellence" is taken from Word Web dictionary, and reads as: "An outstanding feature; something in which something or someone excels," and it seems to me I see a lot of this excellence here on Cancer Connection forum. The resilience of people in adversity is everywhere here.
Beautiful photos, CentralAB . Thanks for sharing them! Brings joy to my day. This is such a good topic, resilience. Every time you fall, get back up - is the essence of resilience to me.
Hope everyone has a peaceful Father’s Day and summer solstice day.
You continue to inspire me with your pictures.
Einstein had it right.
A respected Canadian Author Malcolm Gladwell in one of his books said to become an expert at anything you need to practice for 10,000 hours. This would include people like hockey legend Wayne Gretzky or famous piano player Lang Lang.
These people know that they have to fail over and over again until they get it right.
Being exceptional requires a lot of time and hard work.
Cancer Survivors know that the journey is filled with hills and valleys, the fair days, the not so good days, the emotional challenges I could go on. For us the fortunate ones we reach a point where we have become different in so many ways. And as we all know the journey never really ends.
Here is where I stop and take a minute for those who put up the good fight but were unable to overcome this terrible desease.
My heart goes out to them and their families.
You have a great way of putting this in one sentence.
Short and to the point.
I read with despair Malcolm Gladwell's 10,000 hours. If I paint watercolour 7 hours a day, 5 days a week, it would take me three years to reach the time. I'm not sure if I have the time to do that. So I just do what I can and take encouragement from the small improvements that I see. I think it is the journey more than the end goal of being a master.
I have come to take your beautiful photos for granted. I see them and think - another beautiful one. And I still haven't painted the early ones that I grabbed to try and reproduce. Please don't take my silence as lack of enjoyment. In this one I am one of the silent lurkers.
A different attitude is sometimes needed if we are to achieve resilience. Our attitude is at times revealed by our words, but sometimes by our actions. An attitude of indifference or resignation to a pre-determined fate will drag us down. We will wish for resilience, but not achieve it. My life has to change; and I am the only one who can do that kind of change. No one can do it for me nor tell me just how I should do it. The best impression I can give everyone, is the impression I give of myself. I think that's why the verse says: "be of good courage." (Deut 31:6).
Another great picture.
I love what you say "My life has to change; and I am the only one who can do that kind of change. No one can do it for me nor tell me just how I should do it."
Change does come from within.
You are a wise man and provide a lot of insightful information.
Okay CentralAB How did you know that I am feeling very unresilient (if there is such a word) today? I feel a little better already.
Resilience, isnt about being "strong." Its not even about knowing what to do or not to do. Its simply finding what refreshes your soul. No one else's. I found my little Eden about 20 km from the small town where I live, in the middle of the wilderness. And I come here now to just sit. Sit and watch. Sit and watch and think. Sit and watch and think, and listen to my soul, and what I am surrounded with, what I want to be filled with. And then, I walk away refreshed.
as well as Cynthia Mac
who was a caregiver to her dad with lung cancer. They will share with you their tips, how they coped and answer any questions. If you need anything else, we do have an information line . 1888 939 3333. Very friendly individuals will answer and talk to you for as long as you need. Thank you for reaching out and welcome.
Old Saskatchewan boy here despite the move to the West Coast twenty years ago.
The docs couldn't do surgery so I have had chemo/radiation and immunotherapy.
I'm currently on a targeted therapy drug taken orally called Afatinib. There is a whole thread over here.https://cancerconnection.ca/discussions/viewtopic/68/60213?post_id=285666#p285666 There are several others. Feel free to post in the thread with your questions. Is your husband experiencing any side effects?
The Canadian Cancer Society had a Peer Match program that allowed people to talk directly to another trained patient to receive support. Unfortunately I believe have had to suspend the program. Here is a link to the support services https://www.cancer.ca/en/support-and-services/support-services/how-we-can-help/?region=on
Another option is to call the Canadian Cancer Society hotline directly. 1-888-939-3333 or email even, since the phone lines are likely crazy busy, That is email@example.com
A final option is to use online chat textbased chat accessible on the any page on the cancer.ca website by clicking the "Need more information" in the bottom right hand corner.
Hope this helps. Let us know how you make out.
Im sorry your husband is facing another recurrence of lung cancer.
Although I am a recovering lung cancer patient, very different as I was in operable
Can you tell us what chemo drug he is on.
Sounds like you are having trouble negotiating this site so I will tag our admin people who may be able to help you with that
Lacey_adminCCS . Lianne_adminCCS ..can you help
We are here to support you so hopefully you can figure how to respond.
i, too, am a recovered lung cancer person. Mine was operable and so far I'm cancer free 6 years.
I’m pretty sure WestCoastSailor has some experience with Afatinib, so I’ve “paged” him back into the conversation. My Dad was on a different immunotherapy drug.
I can also empathize with you about him wanting to be independent. I have an uncle who is also 80, and he still wants to pretend he can do more than his capabilities will allow, and my Dad was a titch on the stubborn side, too. Be grateful for the good days, and enjoy those to the fullest.
If you want to tag someone, as I did you and others, type the @symbol right before the name (as I just did, with no space). After a few characters, a list of names should drop down, and you should be able to pick the person’s name from the list. When the name turns blue (and you can’t see the “@“ symbol in front of it), you’ll know they’ll get an e-mail to come back and chat.