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Posted by FrannyVolunteer on Dec 3, 2014 10:35 am
I really think that we all have that feeling.For some it is because the cancer effects are visible others because they are not. I think one is as hard as the other. In my case no one beleived that I had Malignant Melanoma and was on treatment. Inside I felt miserable but for some strange reason I looked well I even glowed. I think it was the effect of the interferon, but who knowes for sure..What learned is that life is sweet, the spring flowers and trees a so much more beautiful after Cancer.And I have 6 grand children which I would not have had if I had given in. And that I really do have an inner strenght that if I had been told, I would never have beleived. But there you go THE POWER OF POSITIVE THOUGHT WILL GET YOU THREW THE WORST, IN THE BEST WAY FOR YOU. (Not always what you want). But all you can do is try......
Posted by PaulP on Dec 4, 2014 1:19 am
It started by getting lost in the mountains at minus12 and sitting on a snowbank for 14 hours with drenched clothing and not knowing if I would see the next day. It was an excellent occasion to realize that I was not afraid of dying. Of course I did everything to ge out to safety as soon as I saw daylight. An helicopter picked me when I was 200 meters from 3 summer cottages.
Because of that experience I had to see my family doctor. A routine blood test revealed that my PSA was at 300 (anything above 10 has to be checked). A few days later a bone scan lit up like a Xmas tree.
Then the biggest fight was to try to receive some treatments. It took five weeks before I could finally see an Oncologist.
By then my PSA was at 560 . The velocity, the speed at which the PSA increases is also an important marker. Doubling of PSA in a year or two is not good news.
What did I learn:
I still consider myself an extremely lucky man. We can't always have the winning number. Of course I have heavily metastasized (30+ metastases) prostate cancer. However I have been so lucky for so many things. Even the way that my prostate cancer is treating me so far is a lucky event.
I had never realized how lucky I had been all my life. And I am still very lucky. One of my best luck (I was afraid that I was so lucky in this one that it might have used up all my luck) is my life companion.
I learned to appreciate the luck that I had so far and that I keep having.
I learned that each person has to take control of their illness. Keep informed. Demand to be informed. Do not chase for every possible rainbow but we pro active in your cancer experience.
The rest has been very well mentioned on many posts.
Ready for some cancer humor?
I met a Fairy that offered me one whish. Being on Androdogen Deprivation Therapy for nine monts (chemical castration) I wished that my genital organs would be proportionate to my body. See the attached picture
Posted by Bradford on Dec 4, 2014 9:02 pm
Posted by rosetta03 on Dec 5, 2014 11:02 am
i was diagnosed with NHL. 3 months ago and I'm scared out of my mind.
i try to stay positive but at times it's hard and the waterworks start.
i have a great support team in my family and friends and they put up
with my crankiness and highs and lows and I'm greatful for all their caring
and support God knows I'm sure sometimes they just want to run LOL.
i have my second round next week a total of six rounds, I'm losing my hair
but I had a girls night out which I showcased my new and improved hair
had a great laugh with my friends out of this and I have to say it's the best
hairstyle I've had in years. Yes, laughter does make a difference and my
friends crack me up but they also have no problem telling me to suck it up and
don't give up the fight when I'm at my lowest and believe it or not it works!
Posted by Zeanna on Dec 5, 2014 7:41 pm
I'm a fan of one of Henry Ford's quotes which says -
"Whether you think you can, or whether you think you can't - you are right".
I'd like to add to that.
No matter what you choose to do or not do, it's your life and your right to do what is right for you and you should have that conversation with yourself about what you are prepared to do, or not to do. But keep listening, educating yourself and keep on choosing and don't let your last choice hinder that.
You get to change your mind anytime. It's yours to change.
Without the many small acts of kindness from others, I would not have been as positive about some things on some days.
Let people off the hook when you feel needy. They may not know how to help you, and they have a life going on too. Expectations generally fail you.
It's okay to feel bad and not be strong all the time. Nothing stays the same and you will feel better. Sometimes venting your built up emotions with a short crying session or journaling will help you face the next step.
Remember to breathe and love yourself enough to care about you, especially when you feel no one is there for you. Be there for you. I struggled with that myself.
Yes, I'm changed and modified from my experiences with cancer. I can't do what I once did in many areas, but I can do modified versions of it and I can do new things which also excite me and inspire my soul.
Find your own voice in all of this because that is where your truth is. My truth is my compass and even if no one agrees with it, it only fails to guide and support me when I ignore it.
Don't be afraid to laugh at yourself. Love does heal what needs healing.
Posted by Owlcare on Dec 8, 2014 8:43 pm
It has taught me that:
It's the little things that make a difference
We are not alone in this
How to recognize 'genuine' people
How to laugh at oneself - laughter becomes such a rare commodity at times
How to function on 'robot' mode as a caregiver
Learn to accept help
Learn that sometimes you cannot control everything
People want to help but don't know how - no one reads your mind
The value of comfortable silence
Appreciation of what a beautiful world we have and how lucky to be Canadians
One is not born a caregiver, we need to learn how to become a good one
Focus on each moment, whether good or bad
Being positive isn't a cure-all. We are allowed crappy days too.
How to stand up for ourselves
Things have to change for caregivers , we come in all shapes, types, age
We will all be either caregivers or caregiven , sometimes both, in our lifetime
and that there is a lot of good people out there
Posted by northernguy on Jan 22, 2015 5:33 pm
I have learned from Cancer
- Life is too short to sweat the small stuff
- I am still me just a little more real
- Find your real friends and let the rest wander aimlessly
- I enjoy everyday more and don't rush around anymore
- I love my wife more now than ever before for being my best friend
Posted by Lost on Feb 9, 2015 10:47 am
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Posted by Lonely lady on Jan 20, 2016 11:22 am
Having cancer sucks but it's the after cancer that is worse because i have to deal with the 'chemo brain', depression, always being tired (if I feel I'm over tired, I don't drive because I may fall asleep at the wheel), everyday excruciating body pains and the expectation that I am back to my old self.
I had hoped this would have brought my husband and I closer together but I have realized recently that he never got it and never will.
Posted by Deb G. on Jan 20, 2016 5:49 pm
Posted by blessed on Feb 16, 2016 12:41 pm
Posted by prostectomized on Feb 24, 2016 7:22 pm
Joni M's ''Both Sides Now'' does it for me.
Posted by jessie on Feb 24, 2016 8:17 pm
Posted by Garden Girl on Mar 16, 2016 1:03 pm
Posted by Beaver on Mar 16, 2016 4:16 pm
Posted by naturelover on Apr 21, 2016 11:53 pm
- Change is always occurring and unpredictable.
- I am much stronger than I thought I was.
- Self love is the most important type of love
- Acceptance of this present moment is important
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