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DaveFuerst
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My Mom was recently diagnosed with Anal Cancer Caused by HPV. We live in different provinces and I'm feeling overwhelmed by the distance.

She is already receiving radiation treatments and it waiting on a PET scan to deternince her course of chemotherapy. I am planning on going to visit as soon as I can but am anxious to return home and not have the tools to help and support my parents and myself.

Overall, I just feel lost and overwhelmed, despite having a strong support system.

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Trillium
1576 Posts

Welcome @DaveFuerst. Sorry that your mom has this recent diagnosis. Glad you found this community though. Expect to go through a range of emotions but the one I remember the most when my son was diagnosed is the shock. You will find your supports to be so helpful as time goes by. I found the support l received from others here was essential for my well being too. You can talk to others who are travelling the same road as you and that can give you a such a relief knowing that you are not alone with your feelings and experiences. I’d like to introduce you to @Brock C and there are many others to meet in the colorectal cancer forum under cancer types.

Caregiver forum where you can read through the various discussions there. https://cancerconnection.ca/discussions/viewcategory/35

Two more threads with many experiences and some ideas for supporting a parent at a distance
https://cancerconnection.ca/discussions/viewtopic/35/57052#coping-with-a-parent-s-diagnosis-

https://cancerconnection.ca/discussions/viewtopic/35/67568

A guide from the Canadian Cancer Society (CCS) about colorectal cancer to share with your family.

https://cancer.ca/en/cancer-information/cancer-types/colorectal

A guide from CCS for caregivers

https://cancer.ca/en/living-with-cancer/coping-with-changes/family-life/adult-children-of-parents-with-cancer

Others will be along soon.

Warm hugs

Trillium

Connection is Healing ❤️‍🩹

DaveFuerst
2 Posts

@Trillium Thank you for the welcome, and for the links!

I'm so glad to have found this community and it is very comforting to know I'm not alone.

Brighty
7488 Posts

@DaveFuerst you are definitely not alone. @Trillium gave some some excellent links. Im wondering if you would like to connect with @beehime who is a new member and just logged on to inquire about supporting their mom from a distance. Maybe you can support each other and exchange ideas.

Brock C
83 Posts

Hi @DaveFuerst -

Welcome to CancerConnection! You are definately not alone.

I was diagnosed with stage 3 anal canal cancer in March 2018. I underwent both chemo and radiation treatments for six weeks. About six weeks after that, I learned I was in remission.

This group has been an invaluable resource to me. When I discovered this site, I knew nothing about cancer and felt very much alone in my struggle. I still don't know a lot about anal cancer but being a part of this supportive community is such a comfort. Please take full advantage of it.

And never, ever, give up hope. Praying for your mom, Dave, hoping she's as fortunate as I was.

law1
585 Posts

Welcome @DaveFuerst to this incredible website. The folks here are amazingly supportive, candid, funny, and have experienced cancer up close and personal. All of us can relate to the same feelings you have expressed regarding your Mom's diagnosis.

Fear Not---- we all have been there and each post I read and write hits me hard. I have been cancer free for 3 years (tongue cancer) and initially found this site in 2017 when I was feeling hopeless and in pain.

Caregiving is a noble position, and it takes a great emotional toll. I cannot duplicate the info already posted, but I urge you to seek support services available at your Cancer Centre and online at this site.

Hang on, as you have begun a challenging yet often travelled journey….there is a light at the end of this tunnel!

Dave58
172 Posts

@DaveFuerst Hi Dave, I can't help you with that type of cancer, sorry. I can how ever is to let you know you are not alone. We're one big Family in here and now you have become part of this Family. We will be here for you no matter what. This is your safe place, scream , rant ask ANY question you feel you need to and we'll be here for you. We don't post and run.

There are ways to shorten the distance between you with zoom and other platforms. There must be someone around your parents that could help set that up. @Trillium Brings up a ton of very helpful info for you to use. Your stress level must be maxed. So please remember to take care of yourself during this. If I can help you in any way , you're always welcome to PM me

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