how. to cope
I'm so sorry @darby . Welcome to the site. Thank you for reaching out to us. I get it, and we all get it. It is terrifying, plain and simple. I went through it too, when my partner was diagnosed with stage 4 esophegeal cancer. It was shocking, devastating and turned our worlds upside down. I learned as I went along basically. You realize how strong you are when this is thrown at you. Get all the support you can get, reach out to others, ask for help whenever you need it, whatever you need. Don't be shy. Does he have a treatment plan yet? How is he coping? I found it so helpful to talk to the oncology social worker. She let me come in whenever I needed to, to vent, to cry, to scream. I also cried to my mom who was a great support to me. Do you have anyone that you can lean on for support? Also others to lean on for practical help, like chores, meal prep, grocery shopping, keeping track of appointments, keeping track of meds. Also I learned from my social worker that self care is so important while taking care of your partner. I don't want to overwhelm you but know that we are here to walk alongside you with whatever support, questions, or anything else you need to get you through. I would like to introduce you to a few members who are presently caring for their partners. They will help you, encourage you, and give you the strength the carry through this very tough time. @NickytheCanuck
Thank you so much in advance.
@darby my heart goes out to you. We know the fear, anger, hurt and all the other emotions you are and will be feeling. This is the safe place to land to seek whatever help and guidance you may need. I am walking in your shoes and can very much relate to the heartbreak and fear you are experiencing. My husband Steven was diagnosed a couple of years ago and its been an emotional rollercoaster. Please reach out as you are able and we will help you in any way we can. Sending you much strength 💕
treatments. for pancreatic. cancer
just to say thanks. so much for. all the support. definitely. will need it
no treatment. plan yet