Laika57 , the lack of foot care is inexcusable. As if he - and you - didn’t have enough other problems. Is it on his chart to apply the cream twice daily? If so, a nurse should be signing off each time it’s done. Not that signing off means they actually did it. I once arrived at the hospital at 8 am to find my husband’s pain meds sitting on his bedside table, when the nurse had signed off as giving them to him at 6 am. When I complained, the day nurse said it wasn’t her fault, the night nurse should have given them to him, and that she had probably been too busy. If a nurse is too busy to give someone their meds, what’s the point in even having a nurse? And my husband at this stage was totally incapable of taking meds by himself, or even noticing that they were sitting there.
I would also check him for bed sores on his back, if they haven’t checked his feet, they probably haven’t been doing that either.
When I had days like you are having, I would go home and crank up the music and sing loudly. Good songs for this are: Can’t get no Satisfaction , Proud Mary, and Eve of Destruction.