I suppose they may have mentioned that I also felt he wasn't quite well enough and he latched on to that part. I didn't go see him yesterday. Was too exhausted. I couldn't get myself to go out and put the snow tires on after breakfast and then just fell asleep. Woke up at 8pm.
now the nurse called and said he had a setback. Probably thought I'd abandoned him. I'll have to go in and see. Still have to finish shoveling the driveway and put them drat tires on first. 4x4 bolts. How hard can it be...
@WestCoastSailor thanks for that post. I can relate to much of it. I agree, stabilizing meds does take time and cannot be hurried.
@Laika57 Thanks for all that you have been sharing above. I am sure it will be very helpful to others. Just knowing that they are not alone in such struggles.
Efficient communication with staff can be challenging, I like to presume that its because they are often so understaffed and just too busy to respond in a timely manner. One thing I found helpful was to write out a few things that I thought any staff caring for my wife should know. She had been in quite a state a few times and was not able to communicate verbally, how her pain was, or if the meds were helping. I wrote out several pages of non-verbal cues, very specific to my wife so that they would know if she was in pain or not. I gave that to the charge nurse, and they put it in the chart. Of course, some read it and some didn't but for the ones that did read it; it made all the difference in the world.
I also dropped off a copy of that at the doctor's office, gave it to receptionist to give to him, and that turned out to be really helpful, and a med change was made because of it, which really helped too.
I think it is very good that you are recognizing the limitations involved, and I do recall asking doctor and staff to "please keep them longer." Most of the time they will; if there is a good reason, which I know there is in your case. It sounds like you really do need that extension for your loved one to stay a while longer. I had to go to court a couple of times to say similar things about a loved one. Its not easy. But it really is the best way to go if you don't feel safe or if your loved one is likely to harm themselves or others. You have to keep yourself safe. Some doctors/Psychiatrists can be a little biased in their practice with such things. Most of them are not, but the odd one can just make it all so much worse. If that becomes a real problem, there are ways to address it.