Mom passed away early early Christmas morning. Just made it over 94, but fell her way into it, so she was a bit beat up.
Mom was diagnosed with stage 4 non small cell lung cancer in November of 2018. She started with immunotherapy and a year later switched to a light chemo treatment. Eventually the cancer spread to her brain and messed with her independent and strong mind.
Although the plan was to go to hospice when she became bedridden (which was two days after the falls), we opted
to keep her at home. With Covid, and the realization on my part that I would be there mostly on my own, we kept her comfortable with medications and music and visits from family.
I have so many thoughts to share about caregiving and ideas for doing it well, but I’ll save those for another post.
Mom loved a good drink of scotch or gin, a nice dry white or red, and the odd pint of something with character, so if you’d like to raise your next glass in her honour, I’d love it.
Thanks all. Take care of each other. Love you Mom.
@JenG please accept my deepest condolences in the loss of your beloved mom. You were such a loving and devoted daughter to her and she was so lucky to have you. Hope you can find comfort in the beautiful memories you had with her. Dont hesitate to join ‘coping with grief ’ on the site. Keep in touch and let us know how you are doing .
thank you so much for sharing this last chapter of your moms story with us.
please accept my sincere condolences to you, your family and all those who loved her. she sounds like a heck of a feisty gal.
I will indeed raise a toast to her, AND to you!
I'm sure the apple doesnt fall far from the tree.
cheers & gentle hugs,
My sincere condolences on the loss of your mom. That final goodbye to our moms is never easy.
I want to commend you and your family for the care you have given your mom. Keeping her at home, although not necessary easy, was the greatest gift you will have ever given her.
Our family kept our dad at home ( he had been in hospital after a fall but when he said” just take me home to my house “ ) we made the decision to try.
It was exhausting but it is the best decision I ever made and one that I have no regrets for. I knew We had done everything we could and he died at peace and I was at peace.
@JenG, my sincerest condolences to you and your family on the loss of your mother. I could hear your love for her in your posts. You sounded very devoted and committed to providing optimal care for your mother. I am glad she had your loving care and compassion. Thinking about you as you remember your mother.
By all means, once you have the necessary arrangements done and things settle down for you a bit, please do come back and share any caregiving tips you have. All are welcome!
@JenG I am sorry to hear of the loss of your Mom. I was happy to see that she had such a devoted caregiver as you were. Its hard to lose a parent, but when that kind of love is in the picture, the grief does get easier. I lost my Dad to Leukemia, my late wife to ovarian cancer. What helps me the most is gratitude. For all the things I did right, and for the ways that the people closest to me, but who have died, have blessed me. I hope you will go easy on yourself. Ask for help if needed. Let us know how you are doing when you can.