In 2019 my father's prostate metatisized into his bones. Not much can be done for him. Chemo is not suitable for him and so far he has refused radiation treatments. He is accepting pain management but that is all. My Mom is/was his principal caregiver. As a family, we were coping until my Mom's diagnosis with uterine cancer. COVID struck just as her surgery was moved up. Luckily she was able to have her surgery just as all the hospitals were shutting down their ORs. My best friend and caregiver - my 13 year old dog - had to be put down the day after we found out Mom needed chemo treatments as well. We are 1/3 of the way through Mom's chemo treatments. She has had pretty much every rare and never seen before reaction to her chemo. In the first 6 weeks I had to take her to Emergency/UCC and she's been close to dying twice. I am on a full time leave from work to take care of my parents. They are "too" healthy for provincial homecare if you can believe it. I'm in charge of all their groceries (online), cooking, driving to appointments, consults, cleaning, telephone consults, updating their friends via an email chain... if it's inside the house it's me. My brother who is still working in an office mows the lawns, takes care of the pool and gets groceries or prescriptions we cannot get delivered. It has been since March 2020 that I have been in isolation to keep my parents safe and so that I can enter their house. I am so tired, lonely and overwhelmed with all of this. None of the support groups are operating due to COVID and very few of my friends truly understand what I am going through. Any suggestions of good books to read? Insights? What you do to help yourself as a caregiver? Help!
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