I had to write in and say just how proud I am of my Dad. In addition to his talk with his doctor last week, he had a chat with his oncologist on Tuesday about how he has been feeling. The oncologist offered counselling, but he’s going to hold off for a few weeks while he sees how his medication change goes. He said to me tonight that he’s already feeling a little better, and he has been “pushing himself” a little - things like getting back to his treadmill and going up for coffee with the guys.
From a caregiver perspective, I encourage you to be frank with your caregiver about the depth of your feelings. While you may not want to worry them in the moment, we can’t help or get you to help or encourage you to seek help in the absence of full knowledge. I learned today (after being present at two doctor’s appointments) that Dad’s feelings got deeper than what he had previously told any of us. When we find out after the fact, it makes us feel like we should have seen the signs, or at least seen them sooner, and that’s hard to detect, especially when you don’t live together.
Communication is so important.