this sounds like a joke topic but it is very real to me. I have advanced lung cancer that has infiltrated my ribs and spine. Mostly, when I see people baring down on me, arms extended, there is time for me to hold up my hands and ask that they don’t hug. Yesterday, in a busy room, a women I don’t know well, and as it turns out did not know about my illness, moved too fast. Not only did she embrace me in a bear hug, she clapped in on the back right over my bad spot, three times hard before I shoved her away. Then I had to backtrack, explain and apologize and she looked stricken. What do people do? Do you have a button made that says something like “no hugs”? I am still sore where she banged on my back and afraid someone may literally break me.
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