Posted by Mike in EY on Aug 19, 2018 7:24 am
I'm reading it because I've recently made the decision to retire from self-employment at age 65 but I really don't know where that's going to take me so I'm looking for inspiration.
My work was my life. But after 40 years of the same thing I thought it was time to stop, even without a real retirement plan. Why? Because I figured "life is short" and I shouldn't be spending my remaining years doing something I wasn't in love with.
Then I get hit with a cancer diagnosis. It's like the universe is saying "Yup, maybe shorter than you think." A not-so-subtle reminder to focus on what's important to me.
Anyway, if you're conflicted about retirement this book may be helpful.
Posted by scaredysquirrel on Aug 23, 2018 11:56 pm
Posted by Cynthia Mac on Aug 24, 2018 8:15 am
While looking to credit my earlier quote this morning, I found two more that appear might be helpful to you right now: the first is by Claude Bernard, “Man can learn nothing except by going from the known to the unknown,” and the other by Claudia Black, “Saying no can be the ultimate self-care.”
I don’t recall you saying anything before about your husband’s role in your situation. That will, of course be adding more of those details you are bound to consider. Without knowing what his health condition is, I ponder two things: Is it fair for him to be enjoying retirement while his “frame of mind” is impacting your deferment of it? Are there things you could do together in retirement that could make his frame of mind turn around?
As you know, scaredysquirrel , I’ve read every one of your posts on this topic. Whatever you decide will be courageous, at least they way I see it from this chair!
Posted by scaredysquirrel on Aug 25, 2018 10:09 pm
Posted by Cynthia Mac on Aug 25, 2018 11:16 pm
Now that I know your husband has a heart condition, I can better appreciate HIS frame of mind. Being the spouse of a heart patient requires patience, for sure (I know two such spouses).
No wonder you’ve been mulling all this over so much! When I retired, all I had to think about was surviving as a sole support!
Yup, definitely, you’ve got me beat by a country mile when it comes to being courageous!
I am fully convinced that you are going to do the right thing for you - whatever that is.
And, whatever that is, I don’t want you to question your final decision for a second, ‘cause you’ve DEFinitey weighed everything — on a very well-calibrated scale!
Posted by scaredysquirrel on Aug 26, 2018 9:39 pm
Posted by scaredysquirrel on Aug 29, 2018 1:17 am
Posted by scaredysquirrel on Aug 29, 2018 4:23 pm
Posted by Cynthia Mac on Aug 29, 2018 11:21 pm
Indeed, it is not forever. Maybe look at it this way: you’ve got this until you don’t, and if “you don’t” happens after 3 months, you’ll be retiring only 9 months early.
My dear, you’ve been through chemo and radiation. I’ve been through neither, but I’d think that going back to work would be less daunting than either of those. Didn’t someone you used to work with say you could still change your mind? Could you relate it back to chemo fog if you did? (Like, really. I’m trying to help you out here.)
At least by deciding to go back to work, you will learn more about your physical and emotional/mental stamina levels post-treatment. (OMG, now I feel like I’m talking you IN to going back to work! Please don’t read it that way — I’m just trying to support your decision - it can be hell being an Aquarius!)
If I may make a (yet another?) suggestion, you could use your “transit time” to plan and dream about what you want to do when you retire. Who knows? You might look up one day while riding the bus and see an ad for something you’ve always wanted to do or try or go to, and your retirement might happen that day!
You may not believe this (unless you’ve been reading that other thread about journaling - hee hee hee), but I set up a little notebook while I was in my angst phase. I filled several pages with financial estimates before I gave up on that, and then I clipped ads out of magazines of places I’d like to travel and taped them in and made a list of things I could do “if I got bored.” Haven’t seen that book in months — must not be “getting bored!”
I’m not sure which book it is in - it’s either The Secret, You Can Heal Your Life, or The Artist’s Way, but today’s quote for you is, “The Universe will provide.”
Posted by scaredysquirrel on Aug 30, 2018 12:56 am
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